Dear Name Withheld,
The one thing in life holding you back from moving forward seems to be this accident. Notice that you are accepting the fact that it was an accident and not something planned. It is only reasonable for someone mature who had part in a death has to feel some kind of sympathy for their loved ones. The parents of this teen have denied your apologies and it can be reasonable for them because they see you as a murderer. “You shame yourself, my soul, you shame yourself, and you will have no further opportunity to respect yourself; the life of every man is short and yours is almost finished while you do not respect yourself but allow your happiness to depend upon the souls of others”. You made your point when you asked for their acceptance of your apology. Your apology was acknowledged. They cannot say that you were guilty and you were in complete denial of having anything to do with this.”If it is within your power, why do you do it? If within the power of another, whom do you blame-atoms or gods? ” To do either is folly. No one is to blame.So what exactly should you be worried about? The self image of yourself should reflect your morales. Your sympathy builds your character and shows the pride and righteousness you believe in. This accident 30 years ago is a minor setback to the life you were given. You are so little compared to the universe. Nothing will matter in the end. Even if the teen hasn’t fulfilled his life to the fullest, make up for it yourself and live to the furthest extent you can. Avoid looking back.
Appiah, Kwame Anthony. “I Accidentally Killed a Child. May I Get in Touch With the Family?” The New York Times, The New York Times, 17 May 2017, www.nytimes.com/2017/05/17/magazine/i-accidentally-killed-a-child-may-i-get-in-touch-with-the-family.html?rref=collection%2Fcolumn%2Fthe-ethicist&action=click&contentCollection=magazine®ion=stream&module=stream_unit&version=latest&contentPlacement=18&pgtype=collection.